I would strongly disagree with his doctor. We did a study of people who were infected for 10 years or more, specifically, with daily home swabbing of the genitalia, and the majority did swab test positive. His taking Valtrex reduces the risk of you acquiring HSV 2 for sure. However, the risk is not high after 10 years but still present. Perhaps he doesn’t understand that Valtrex is only activated in the presence of herpes virus enzymes, so if there is no virus present, the medicine is just peed out, unchanged. What is his concern about taking Valtrex?
I sure hope it doesn’t come down to you having to choose between a greater likelihood of you getting herpes or being with him, not taking Valtrex. Surely there is a middle ground. What can I do to help?