Reply To: Clarification hsv1

[Msarnoff201]

Hi Terri

I actually hadn’t received oral sex for up to 6 months leading up to my contraction of OH (for other reasons) which is why I never worried that I had a genital infection but I wonder endlessly these days. I’m not sure if my thoughts are justified or they’re just fear taking over :/

I just get these intrusive “what if” thoughts wondering if I possibly contracted both at one point and am now only showing symptoms but only orally and soon enough I will wake up with it genitally. I know when dealing with HSV just about everything is possible and to someone with very bad anxiety and ocd, possibilities scare the life out of me. I think I have to just get comfortable with the likeliness and probability of situations.

my logical side is very aware that it’s very unlikely that I have been simultaneously infected but the other 10% of my brain holds on to the fear of this being the case.

So you rarely ever see someone with a simultaneous infection?

If you were me, in the absence of ever seeing blisters on my genital area, would you just move on with your life? Do you think this warrants true concern?

Could you also clarify when you said

“ Are you concerned about this because your partner had given you oral sex at the same time, is that why you are worried?
I would say I rarely see this, and most often, it is the other way around, most often I see genital HSV 1 symptoms without oral symptoms in the same person who also kissed the person who gave them oral sex.”

Can I feel confident that I don’t have GHSV1?

What advice can you give someone who is in my shoes? Sorry if I’m asking too much of you right now. I just feel like this is kind of a breakthrough for me in the last 24 months.

I also haven’t performed or received oral sex with my fiancé given the fact that I fear passing it to her and her possibly passing it to me if I don’t have it. Can we resume? How unlikely is it that we would pass it back and forth.

I just want to live my life again.

Thx