I can’t address the HSV 1 part of your questions, but between regular partners (not new partners), the transmission rate of HSV 2 from a female to male is about 4%, given sex twice per week with no condoms, no antiviral meds.
If I were you, I would assume nothing in terms of infection at this point. Your labs are all too vague. If you were my patient, I would recommend that you wait 12 weeks from any exposure to this particular partner (or any partner) and do the western blot. It can be done for Canadians but easier to come to the US for the blot.
Terri