Hmmmm. If only you had had a swab test done of the lesions in your mouth or the cold sore, we would know so much more. At this point, we just don’t know what is going on. You could have an older established infection with HSV 2 and have been largely asymptomatic or the lesions orally could be HSV 2, we simply cannot know. The only way to know would be in you had a negative IgG test for HSV 2 prior to giving oral sex to the man you describe.
The only way we are going to know is if you get another cold sore (have you ever had one before in your lifetime?) and have it swab tested or you get a genital sore and have it swab tested. If the sores in your mouth were HSV 2, then you may not have any other oral symptoms for a long time, is the problem.
I just don’t know what to tell you about the current person in your life except to tell him what you’ve told me – exactly what you’ve told me. You could go on suppressive therapy and have him use condoms with sex if you decide to do that. The issue with that is then you won’t have another outbreak to swab test right away but you would be protecting him.
What are YOUR thoughts about this?