1. Can someone have HSV1 both orally and genitally?
Yes, but if that is true, they almost always get it at the same time – if you got this in childhood, that isn’t the case.
5. Well established meaning a few months or years? Our relationship started in May, does this number make sense for an infection or 7 months or less?
well established, meaning at least 3 months or so.
Another question: is GHSV1 transferred easily from male to female genitally?
No, it definitely is not
I know it’s possible I gave it to him if oral was involved, but I think it’s unlikely since I had a 5 year relationship before him and 2 other long term before the 5 year so I feel that at some point, someone would have informed me of symptoms.
I really don’t agree with your assessment of this particular situation. you could have been infected for a long time and not shed the virus very often. In addition, it could be that previous partners already had a cold sore history (known or not) and so they wouldn’t get this from you.
I’m not sure why you would actually need to talk to him, but if you do, be certain that his virus was typed, HSV 1 or HSV 2. HSV 1 genital infection will be far less contagious to others.
I really want to avoid the conversation of asking him or talking to him. I don’t think I will get a straight answer if I ask.