Your situation is unusual but not unheard of, certainly.
Your shedding rate, because you’ve had it orally, should be lower than someone who has never had it before anywhere, though we don’t have research to prove that.
You are not a real risk to your partner that has oral HSV but as you can see it happens but very rarely that you get the virus in a new location. Oral antiviral would like reduce the risk of transmission but we don’t have good data on that.
I used to be the medical advisor for the herpes support group in Portland but I don’t know if it still exists – did you try to Google it?
Sheryl Horwitz, NP is an excellent resource in Portland if you need to see someone with high levels of knowledge about HSV
Terri