I just want to say how much I appreciate your post and all the research you’re doing to really give this woman a chance. No one asks to get HSV2 and it’s a devastating diagnosis on the outset. I, a female, was completely broken when I found out 1.5 yr ago and refuse to let anyone touch me now and I don’t know how to break that cycle because in all reality, it has zero bearing over my life and if tests didn’t confirm it, I wouldn’t know I have it. I have friends with it, 3 lifelong friends, that have had it since their very first relationship and all are now married with kids for decades and only one passed it to her husband but neither have any symptoms of it and they tell me the fear of it is infinitely worse than the actual infection. It’s a skin condition – like acne – nothing more. Now, knowing as much as I know about it, a true connection with someone is way more rare than HSV2. There’s a study in the New England Journal of Medicine that’s helped me graphically show the odds of a man contracting it from a woman – you should look that study up. The chances of you getting it are higher in the beginning but not 100% if you’re careful and she’s on meds. What are the odds of finding another deep connection with someone though? I wish you both the best of luck! I commend you for seeing who she is and not letting her diagnosis scare you away and I commend her for being so so brave to tell you about her situation – she must feel super safe with you.