1) The only way I think I’ll know my status is if I get the WB. But I don’t want to go through the hassle of getting a WB with every person I date. I am a single, twenty something year old woman in the city! I take precautions and am mindful about having conversations with partners, but since most people don’t get tested for herpes per the CDC, I am trying to find the balance between enjoying and living life and doing so in a way that doesn’t trigger my body anxiety (that, I think, is the true basis for my HSV2 anxiety. It’s weird.) I take precautions to minimize risk during sex, but no sex is truly risk free. Any takes on how I should try to mentally think about/proceed with this?
Ask your partners to always use condoms – they reduce transmission by 96% from male to female.
2) I was dry humping with shorts on with a man I’ve been seeing. While we were dry humping (he didn’t have clothes on but I did), my shorts slid bunched up in my groin area and I felt his shaft against the inside of my buttock for a brief second before I pulled back in surprise. No part of him touched my vagina, labia, or actual anus, just a very short contact with the skin an inch or so away from the outside/start of my anus. He hasn’t been tested yet.
This presents zero risk of herpes transmission.
What is the risk for acquiring HSV2 from the situation above? What is the risk of dry humping? At what point does it become risky? Thanks!
None
You will likely always have low positives – in your case, you would be looking for lesions and/or high positives to be concerned about HSV 2 infection.
Terri