It is not uncommon in the first year of infection to have a few more outbreaks than you will in subsequent years as your immune system becomes more familiar with this virus. Once you have HSV for about four months, it is very unlikely that you would ever get this in a new location. Most people with genital HSV one infection don’t take antiviral medicine but if you continue to have documented recurrences, you could use medication suppressively for a few months to see how that goes.
You didn’t ask me about this but if she’s been infected for four years with genital HSV-1, the likelihood of you acquiring this through intercourse is astronomically small. Did you have a swab test that was positive for HSV one and an antibody test that was negative for HSV one at the time of your first symptoms?
Terri