Reply To: Frottage risk

[Baddecisions]

Hi Terri,

1. I had a recent encounter with a female who had genital herpes in the past (she only disclosed after everything was over). We were both fully nude, she was sitting on top of me and there was skin-to-skin grinding between my penis and her labia majora/the area between her thigh and labia majora. When she was on top of me, due to my fear of catching a STD, I tilted my pelvis downwards towards the bed to reduce the pressure of our skin rubbing. I also made sure that there was no direct contact between my penis and her labia minora or the inner parts of her vagina. No penetration occurred and I did not notice any visible lesions on her. How high is the risk of catching genital herpes from this interaction?

2. From the above interaction, is it possible for lesions to show up on my butt if the site of infection is at my penis? I’ve been feeling a tingling sensation at a specific spot on my butt for the last 2 days and I’m not sure if it’s prodromes or my mind playing tricks on me.

3. How long will it typically take for lesions to form after prodromes begin?

4. Have you personally diagnosed anyone who caught genital herpes from skin-to-skin grinding while there was no visible lesions?

5. I’ve seen multiple conflicting data about the incubation period of herpes. How many days after exposure will symptoms show up before I know I did not catch anything/ I’m asymptomatic?

6. I’m currently married and I know my wife is for sure negative from a past igg test she did. For couples where only one party has genital herpes, what are the risk of the negative party eventually catching the disease, assuming the positive party is on daily antivirals and they strictly do not have sex while there is an outbreak.

7. Can oral antivirals be taken daily indefinitely?

Thanks for your help once again.