Reply To: Childbirth

[worriedmom123]

Background: GHsv2 for 14 years. On suppressive therapy. Gave to husband 8 years ago, no daily meds for him.
-Last night we had sex. To finish my husband pulled out and rubbed his penis 5-10ish seconds to ejaculate. Then he took a shower and washed with soap and water, not sure how thoroughly. He doesn’t have any obvious cuts on his hand. I’m worried bc fast forward to today and I might be having an outbreak. I have a very tender area in my butt crack that looks a little red. I’m so worried I had significant viral shedding last night and when he was rubbing himself there was a break in the skin I didn’t notice and he will get whitlow. It’s a crippling fear of mine.

-I know you always say autoinoculation is rare but this seems like it could be the perfect storm. Also I frequently see people claim they autoinoculated. Thoughts on this?

-Do I shed vaginally during an anal outbreak?

-While looking down there I noticed on my butt cheek two tiny white heads with red skin around them. Painless to touch. Does this sound herpetic?

-What would be the chances of having two outbreaks simultaneously in the boxer short area?

-Sometimes I worry something is wrong with me bc I seem to still get outbreaks on suppression. Do I have a lot virus in me? Am I doomed?

-I’m breastfeeding and worry about spreading it to my nipple. Is this a far fetched fear?

-I just worry a lot about spreading it around my body in general. Esp whitlow. Have you seen it happen? I worry about my husband too. Rational steps to prevent it from happening?

-Would you ever discourage someone with hsv2 from having more kids? Is already having 4 healthy babies pushing my luck related to neonatal hsv?

– My babes. I love them so much and I worry about inadvertently infecting them with hsv2. Have you ever heard of this happening? Rational steps to prevent this from happening? Potential spread in towels freaks me out

-Im working with a CBT and have come a long way but still have so much fear &shame.
Thank you!