I’m not clear that getting a western blot for you at this point is a good idea. It’s a bit earlier .
The false positive rate is about 40% I believe with that 2.65. I am not at my office today so I don’t have my little chart with those numbers with me, but I’m pretty sure that’s right. The inhibition assay has been off and on correct vs. the western blot. And I do prefer the western blot.
Probably not a bad idea to abstain for now. But I think you need to be thinking ahead to a possible positive and how it will impact your relationship. I don’t have any suggestions for counseling in New York. But summarizing what I think it will come down to is this:
Would you rather be with this man and risk acquiring herpes or be without him? Not that being without him means that you’ll never be at risk again because you may find yourself in this situation again. Sometimes I think people get swept up in the WORD herpes and all of its accompanying stigma. Genital herpes can be managed successfully with medicine. Women with herpes have healthy babies all the time People live completely full and rewarding lives with herpes every day. But how often do you find someone you really really love? Maybe you aren’t there in this relationship right now. But I’ve been in your position and I’ve had to make this decision and for me, I really loved this person and the decision was a slam dunk to take the risk. Let’s face it – everybody brings negative stuff to a relationship. Some is really obvious, like herpes. Other things take time to reveal themselves. Things like over attachment to parents or cheapness or excess use of drugs or alcohol or OCD or laziness, a whole lot of things are possible! But herpes is one that’s pretty easy to deal with over time while the others? Not so much.
Here’s another little thing: Your negative .69 is higher than most negatives. We do see true negatives at this value, but not all that often. Sometimes a negative at this value suggests seroconversion happening but certainly not always. It might not hurt for you to get another ELISA test at some point. Just to see where you stand.
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