So if the test is accurate, which it likely is, you are most definitely contagious. If you have been infected for a long time you may not be as infectious as someone with new infection but we know that people with HSV 2 shed virus on average, 13% of days swabbed (so 13 out of 100 or about 45 days a year). This can happen with or without lesions. I think you need to read a bit more about herpes. There is a free handbook on this website that will be helpful.
Your physician cannot order the western blot for herpes – it can obtained with with a kit shipped from UWashington or our clinic can order it be drawn at a Quest lab near you. Insurance cannot be used with tests ordered through us; Quest does not allow this. They will only agree to bill our clinic for this test, not patients (too many people didn’t pay and thus screwed it up for everyone who wanted insurance billing) so we have patients pay us and we pay Quest directly. This allows us to offer the test a significantly lower rate.
Are you certain that you are posting the correct results? I cannot imagine her saying that about a positive result like this.