Oh dear. To clarify: she and I had intercourse. She gave me oral sex. I did not give her oral sex.
After this, we both had genital symptoms. She was swabbed and tested positive for HSV1 genitally. She has had no oral symptoms.
I had genital symptoms in the same time period. I was swabbed during that time to test for chlamydia and gonohrea but nothing positive for herpes showed up in that (if they could have even seen it I don’t know). But I’ve had enough symptoms to assume I have it there: burning urination, itchiness, white flecks on my stomach as evidence of discharge.
The week after I got sores in my mouth and had a swab. These tested positive for HSV1.
My theory is that I contracted both genital and oral from a previous partner and the oral simply took longer to settle in than the genital. I’m a bit confused by it all too. But that’s what happened.