1. The words that run through my head about your GyN’s advice are not acceptable in print. That is not what is going on here.
.2 The risk of acquiring HSV 2 from inantimate objects is zero except sex toys you might share with an infected person
3. While it is probably possible to be infected through tears, sperm and vaginal fluids, it is not likely. Sperm in particular, alone, is not a good carrier of virus. Tears, interesting are a good carrier of HSV 1. Vaginal fluid that has passed over the genitals might be contagious.