It does not sounds characteristic of HSV 1 infection but it does sound consistent with something called molluscum contagiosum. That is consistent with what your partner may have had, right?
Herpes lesions do not last as long as your description, nor do have they have waxy centers.
I think you can rule out acquiring herpes from your first two partners unless it would be HSV 1 from oral sex. And the pubic hair spots do sound very much like molluscum. I can’t tell you that you don’t have herpes but I can tell you that your symptoms are not consistent with herpes at all.
If you do decide that you want to test, you can order the IgG antibody test online without a clinician order, but in your case, I honestly don’t feel like you need one.